Maintain regular contact
This cannot be overstated. Consistency is crucial, especially during the all-important trust-building phase of the relationship.
Take the time to develop trust
Many of our youth have not had positive relationships with adults in the past. Mutual trust and respect are goals to work toward. Keep your promises, speak truthfully, state your expectations and set clear boundaries. In addition, remember that most youth are very sensitive about being labeled. Avoid using derogatory phrases such as "welfare mother," "juvenile delinquent" or "abusive families."
Don't preach
In working with your mentee, practice active listening and try to encourage problem solving, offering alternatives instead of answers. The role of the mentor is relatively free of constraints. It is important to work together to determine activities and define the direction of the relationship. A mentor is an advocate, friend, role model, sponsor, nurturer and coach. A mentor is not a parent, therapist, judge, rescuer, authority figure, employer or bank.
Identify areas of need
Don't expect each session to be a confession. Once problem areas are identified, work to find ways to address those areas of need and give support. Some mentees may not easily accept help. You can be a strong and committed voice of support. Stay alert to changes and individual needs.
Access resources
Help your mentee access community resources. Instead of doing the research yourself, model the process you use when seeking information and services. When appropriate, guide your mentee through a brainstorming process. The Internet or Blue Pages of your local phone book are a good place to start your search.
Debrief with Volunteer Coordinators and peers
Mentoring sessions can be both exhilarating and frustrating. Attend monthly meetings to share your stories, but take care not to betray confidences. Seeking the advice of other mentors will help strengthen your communication and problem-solving skills.
HAVE FUN!
Enroll in rewards and incentives which add to the joy of mentoring. Our AP Rewards program allows mentors to submit their monthly activity reports online and receive points accordingly, which can be redeemed for thousands of products through our online catalog. Click here to start redeeming points today!
Also, take advantage of local events and activities offered free of charge through Tickets for Kids, www.ticketsforkidsfoundation.org.
Courtesy of the Northwest Regional Education Library